Divorce Therapy, Parenting Marriage, or Open Marriage
Navigating Major Relationship Transitions with Clarity and Confidence
Deciding that your marriage needs to change is a significant step. Whether you’re considering divorce, shifting to a parenting-focused marriage, or exploring the possibility of an open relationship, it’s a decision that can feel overwhelming, confusing, and emotionally charged. But you don’t have to navigate this journey alone.
I’m here to support you as you figure out how to proceed, ensuring that you and your partner can make informed decisions that align with your values and long-term goals. Together, we’ll explore options you may not have considered and address the complex emotions that come with this transition.
Understanding Your Options
When a marriage no longer feels like the partnership it once was, it’s important to understand that there are multiple paths forward. This isn’t just about choosing between staying together or getting divorced—there are nuanced options that can be tailored to your unique situation.
- Divorce Therapy
Divorce is never an easy decision, but it can be the right one for some couples. In divorce therapy, we’ll work together to navigate the emotional landscape of ending a marriage. You might be thinking, “I just want this to be over,” or “How will this affect the kids?” I’ll help you address these concerns, ensuring that both partners can separate with as much peace and understanding as possible. - Parenting Marriage
If your focus is on co-parenting and maintaining a stable environment for your children, a parenting marriage might be a viable option. Perhaps you’ve thought, “We can’t stay married, but we’re still a team for the kids,” or “I want to avoid the upheaval of divorce for their sake.” We’ll discuss how to redefine your relationship so that you can continue to parent together effectively, even if the romantic aspect of your marriage changes. - Open Marriage
For some couples, opening up the relationship can be a way to stay together while acknowledging that traditional monogamy might not meet all of their needs. You may have wondered, “Can this really work for us?” or “How will this affect our relationship?” I’ll help you explore whether this is a realistic option for your marriage, setting clear boundaries and guidelines that ensure both partners feel respected and secure.
Common Challenges I Address
- Fear of the Unknown
Making a big decision about your marriage can be scary. You might be thinking, “What if I make the wrong choice?” or “What will my life look like after this?” I’ll help you confront these fears and find a path forward that feels right for you. - Emotional Overwhelm
Whether you’re considering divorce, a parenting marriage, or an open marriage, the emotional weight can be intense. You may feel like, “I don’t know how to handle all of this,” or “I’m afraid of what comes next.” I’ll support you in processing these emotions, so you can make decisions with a clear mind and heart. - Communication Breakdowns
At this stage, communication can be particularly challenging. You might be saying, “We can’t talk without fighting,” or “I don’t know how to bring this up.” I’ll work with both of you to ensure that these difficult conversations happen in a way that is respectful, constructive, and focused on finding solutions.
How I Help
My approach to these complex transitions involves:
- Clarifying Your Priorities
We’ll start by identifying what’s most important to you—whether that’s the well-being of your children, maintaining a friendship with your partner, or exploring new possibilities in your relationship. You might think, “I just want to do what’s best for everyone,” or “I need to figure out what I want.” I’ll help you gain clarity on your priorities. - Exploring Your Options
I’ll guide you through the different paths available, helping you weigh the pros and cons of each. Whether you’re leaning towards divorce, a parenting marriage, or an open marriage, we’ll explore what each option means for you and your partner. You might find yourself saying, “I didn’t realize this was an option,” or “I never thought about it that way.” - Supporting Effective Communication
I’ll teach you how to have these tough conversations in a way that leads to understanding rather than conflict. This might involve learning to express your fears and hopes without triggering defensive reactions or finding new ways to negotiate and compromise. - Managing Emotional Stress
We’ll work together to process the complex emotions that arise during this transition. Whether you’re feeling scared, angry, hopeful, or confused, I’m here to help you navigate these feelings and move forward with confidence.
Take the First Step Toward a New Chapter
Changing the nature of your marriage is a big decision, but you don’t have to face it alone. Whether you’re considering divorce, a parenting marriage, or an open marriage, I’m here to support you every step of the way.
HOW IT WORKS
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If you reside outside of CA I might be able to support you through Relationship Coaching. Learn about my coaching packages at Rekindle Your Romance.